![]() ![]() You wouldn’t believe that your Love could ever annoy you… much less drive you to the edge of sanity. These same wonderful differences that caused you to fall in love with each other can often be the very things that drive you apart.Īt the beginning of a romance it’s all sunshine and rainbows. She likes to sleep in he gets up at the crack of dawn. Remember that before you became one in marriage, you were two independent people with independent thoughts, actions, likes and dislikes. So it’s a lot harder for them to forgive, much less forget. You see, they truly and deeply love you, not your spouse. If you truly and deeply love your spouse, once you have vented all of your anger and hurt out to your loved ones, you realize how silly the whole thing was and it is much easier to return home with an open mind and a calmer more forgiving heart. Not to mention the fact that often it is too easy for us to tell our “version” of the truth that depicts ourselves as the sainted victim and our spouse as the heartless villain. The problem stems from the fact that our family and friends love us so much that they will automatically go to bat for us, even if we were the one in the wrong. So it is understandable that this is a common mistake couples make at the beginning of a relationship. This is not a bad thing in fact it is completely natural. As single individuals it is a common practice for us to share our troubles and woes with those we love and who love us. Putting your parents or friends in the middle of your relationship. You are partners that have come together in marriage to build a future and part of that is sharing the responsibility of building your financial security. ⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄ It is unfair for both parties in a relationship for one person to take on all the stress, risk and responsibility that comes with financial decisions. ![]() The wife could end up resenting the husband for being too controlling or naggy around topics of money and the husband could end up resentful of the wife’s frivolous spending and blissful ignorance. This paradigm can lead to an unbalanced relationship. ![]() Stereotypically this role would fall on the husband, (though please note I said stereotypically as I am well aware that there are many wife’s that take on this burden as well.) leaving his partner completely oblivious to the state of their financial affairs. There is almost always one person in a relationship who oversees all the financial matters. These 8 tips are from my experience and may point out things you probably don’t know are pushing your husband away and destroying your marriage. This is the one person in the entire world who truly has your back. He is your best friend, your teammate and your partner. I write this to you as a husband, to remind you that your husband is not just your spouse. You will be amazed what time and self-reflection can fix. In any relationship, there will be times you just want to give up and throw in the towel, however, I urge you not to give in too soon. The road to healing our relationship was paved with tons of hard work. We are still living our journey towards “happily ever after,” however a brief separation only two years into our marriage would challenge the strength and foundation of our friendship and act as a wake-up call to how difficult that journey could be. I still remember when we first got married all the hope and faith we had of being together forever, living happily ever after. Over these last several years we have learned from each other, grown with each other, loved each other and fought with each other. My wife and I have a wonderful and happy marriage.
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